How do you feel when you hear or read such question?

What is your destiny?

Honestly, I used to roll my eyes. Not another one of those lame question from a person who wants to appear deep, but actually ends up looking like a fool.

But here's the truth. I only felt -should I say offended- by that question because I honestly didn't feel comfortable thinking about my destiny.

During my debilitating anxiety stage, I couldn't even plan the rest of the day, let alone the rest of my life.

During the worst parts of my marriage, I could only plan on staying married for the rest of the week, so discussing our values and common goals was a terrifying thought.

I could go on, but I think you get the point.

The reason behind this message is to remind you that no matter what happened in your past, you, and only you, get to dictate the rest of your life and define your destiny.

So, if you wish to re-direct the course of your health, your marriage, your relationship with your kids, your finances, you can do that starting today.

So how do you do that?

Here's a simple step by step process:

1. Define what it is that you want with crystal clear specificity

Example:
I want to look at myself in the mirror as I wear my favorite dark blue jeans with my red Anthropologie top and say "I love what you did there, you beautiful piece of art."

Yes, something like that.

2. Define why you want that

Most people have no idea why they want something. They usually say, I just can't stand the way I look in the mirror. Well, while that may hit some sort of spot, it only leads to more behavior that validate the disgust. If you want to have different results, you have to describe the reason as something you do want, not what you don't want.

3. Commit to acting as if

Once you do the first two, you have to act as if. If you said you want your destiny to be a healthy, vibrant, sexy mom/grandma/great grandma, then you have to eat like her, move like her, speak of yourself like her, etc. You have to practice becoming her. Guess what, inevitably you do.


I'm not asking you to buy anything, sign up for anything. All I'm asking you to do is to try doing this in the next week.

Imagine you just committing to these three steps. Really, I'm curious, what do you think could happen if you committed to just doing this.

Shoot me an email with your results.

Your bestie fellow Fempire builder,


Alma